Resolving Conflicts over money
Distinguish commands, freedom, and wisdom
1 Timothy 5:8 … provide … for those of his household…
Psalm 37:21 Do not withhold repayment of your debts.
Proverbs 22:7 The borrower becomes the lender’s slave.
Romans 13:1, 6 The governing authorities… are appointed by God. Because of this you pay taxes.
Proverbs 21:20 There is desirable treasure in the dwelling of the wise, but a foolish man squanders it.
2 Corinthians 9:6-7 He who sows sparingly will also reap sparingly, and he who sows bountifully will also reap bountifully. So let each one give as he purposes in his heart, not grudgingly or under compulsion; for God loves a cheerful giver.
Proverbs 3:9 Honor the Lord with your possessions.
Haggai 2:8 “The silver is Mine, and the gold is Mine,” says the Lord.
Pursue a win win resolution
1 Corinthians 7:33-34 He who is married cares about… how he may please his wife.She who is married cares about…how she may please her husband.
“Father, show us how to honor You with the money you have entrusted to us.”
Luke 14:28 “Count the cost.” (‘Be knowin’ where it’s goin’).
Value your spouse’s (male/female) perspective
Genesis 2:18 The Lord God said, “It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him.”
Be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger
James 1:19, 20 Be quick to hear, slow to speak and slow to anger; for the anger of man does not achieve the righteousness of God.
QUESTIONS FOR LIFE
1.If you are (or have been) married, can you tell about a time that you and your spouse had a conflict over money? How did that turn out?
2.Please read this passage: 1 Corinthians 7:33-34 He who is married cares about… how he may please his wife. She who is married cares about…how she may please her husband.
3.When it comes to money, do you think you and your spouse have lived by these words or not?
4.If you are (or have been) married, have you and your spouse made a written plan for what you will do with your money (a budget/knowin’ here it’s goin’)? If so, what difference has it made (or did it make)?
5.If you are (or have been) married, which of the following best describes (or described) your financial strategy? sacrifice, benevelent dictator, dueling dictators, anarchy, win win
6.If you are (or have been) married, do you (or did you) and your spouse have different male/female perspectives on money matters? Please explain.
7.Can you tell about a time that your spouse’s perspective changed your thinking about money in a good way? Can you tell about a time you ignored your spouse’s perspective and later wished you had not?
8.Please read James 1:19-20 Be quick to hear, slow to speak and slow to anger; for the anger of man does not achieve the righteousness of God.
9.How important has the truth of James 1:19-20 been in relation to your financial conflicts? How important do you want it to be? Please explain.