Preacher: Bob Bryant | Series: He wins she wins

Distinguish commands, freedom, and wisdom

Matthew 19:4-6 “Have you not read that He who created them from the beginning made them male and female, and said, ‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’? So they are no longer two, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate.”

Ephesians 6:2-3 Honor your father and mother (which is the first commandment with a promise), so that it may be well with you, and that you may live long on the earth.

Proverbs 17:17 A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity.

Proverbs 12:26 The righteous should choose his friends carefully, for the way of the wicked leads them astray.

Pursue a win win resolution

1  Corinthians 7:33-34 He who is married cares about… how he may please his wife. She who is married cares about…how she may please her husband.

Value your spouse’s (male/female) perspective

Genesis 2:18 The Lord God said, “It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him.”

  Be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger

James 1:19, 20 Be quick to hear, slow to speak and slow to anger; for the anger of man does not achieve the righteousness of God.

QUESTIONS FOR LIFE

1.Please read these commands from God: Matthew 19:4-6 “A man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall         become one flesh’? So they are no longer two, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate.”

 Ephesians 6:2-3 Honor your father and mother (which is the first commandment with a promise), so that it may be well with you, and that you may live long on the earth.

 2.If you’re married (or have been married) can you tell about a time that a conflict arose when you or your spouse obeyed one of these commands at the expense of the other?

3.In that conflict, which of the following strategies did you follow and how did that turn out? Sacrifice? Benevolent dictator?  Dueling dictators?  Anarchy?  Win Win?

4. Can you tell about a time that you and your spouse followed one or more of these biblical principles when a conflict arose over parents? Which principles? Distinguish commands, freedom, and wisdom,  Pursue a win win resolution, Value your spouse’s (male/female) perspective,  Be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger

5.Please read these passages: Matthew 19:4-6 “They are no longer two, but one flesh.”

Proverbs 17:17 A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity.

 6.Can you tell about a time that a conflict arose when you or your spouse obeyed one of these commands at the expense of the other?

7.In that conflict, which of the following strategies did you follow and how did that turn out? Sacrifice? Benevolent dictator?  Dueling dictators?  Anarchy?  Win Win?

8. Can you tell about a time that you and your spouse followed one or more of these biblical principles when a conflict arose over friends? Which principles? Distinguish commands, freedom, and wisdom,  Pursue a win win resolution, Value your spouse’s (male/female) perspective,  Be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger

9.Please read this passage: Proverbs 12:26 The righteous should choose his friends carefully, for the way of the wicked leads them astray.

 10. Can you tell about a time that you and your spouse decided, as one, to apply this truth? How did that turn out?