Preacher: Bob Bryant | Series: He wins she wins

Pursue a win win resolution

1 Corinthians 7:33-34

He who is married cares about… how he may please his wife.

She who is married cares about…how she may please her husband.

Value your spouse’s (male/female) perspective

Genesis 2:18

The Lord God said, “It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him.”

Be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger

James 1:19, 20

Be quick to hear, slow to speak and slow to anger; for the anger of man does not achieve the righteousness of God.

Distinguish commands, freedom, and wisdom

Ephesians 6:4 Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the training and admonition of the Lord.

Ephesians 5:21, 22, 25 …submitting to one another in the fear of God. Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord… Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her.

Matthew 7:5 Hypocrite! First remove the plank from your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.

James 1:19, 20 Be quick to hear, slow to speak and slow to anger; for the anger of man does not achieve the righteousness of God.

Proverbs 13:24 He who withholds his rod hates his son, but he who loves him disciplines him diligently.

Matthew 5:37 Let your ‘Yes’ be ‘Yes,’ and your ‘No,’ ‘No.’ For whatever is more than these is from the evil one.

Matthew 6:24 “No one can serve two masters; for either he will hate the one and love the other, or else he will be loyal to the one and despise the other.”

QUESTIONS FOR LIFE

1.Please read this passage: 1 Corinthians 7:33-34 He who is married cares about… how he may please his wife.She who is married cares about…how she may please her husband.

2. What differences do you think a win win resolution makes in a marriage? In the lives of children?

3. If your married (or have been married) did you pursue (or not pursue) a win win resolution to conflicts over children? How did that turn out?

4. Please read this passage: Ephesians 6:4 Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the training and admonition of the Lord.

 5. Why do you think God inspired Paul to write this as the main thing fathers (parents) need to do?

6. Can you give an example of a time that you provoked your child to anger?

7. Please read this passage: Ephesians 5:21, 22, 25 …submitting to one another in the fear of God. Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord… Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her.

8. How does this passage relate to Ephesians 6:4?

9. Can you tell your group if you think your obedience (or disobedience) to this passage has   influence your children? Please explain.

10.Please read this passage:

Matthew 7:5 Hypocrite! First remove the plank from your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.

 11.Can you tell about a time that you did with your child what this passage says to do?

12.Please read this passage: James 1:19, 20 Be quick to hear, slow to speak and slow to anger; for the anger of man does not achieve the             righteousness of God.

 13.If you are a parent, do you tend to do (or not do) what this passage says when talking to your children? How do you think this has impacted your children?